Val-You
David Berman • February 8, 2023
Two ways to look at Val-you.
First, do I value myself enough? Is there a proper marketplace value on my existence? Be honest with yourself here. The law of supply and demand applies here as it does in any marketplace.
If you value yourself too much, others will not, and the demand for you will decrease.
If you value yourself too little, others will too, and either leave you alone or take advantage of you.
Be aware of what you set as your daily marketplace value. You can use your interactions with others as guidance.
Second, did you increase your val-you today, and if so how?
Your 9am to 5pm life – did you improve on any of the tools currently in your toolbox? Did you develop, or even start to develop a new one?
Your 5pm to 9am life – there are lots of ways to create value for yourself and others outside of your “work” life. Did you help someone cross the street, donate a unit of blood, give to charity, call someone to tell them you are thinking of them or even love them?
Be aware that your life revolves around val-you.
Value yourself properly, strive to increase your real value – and no inflation please.
Wishes for a great and productive day to all,
Hugs too,
David/
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